13 Ways to Pray for Your Future Husband
I started praying for my future husband six years before I met him. When I was a teenager, I was sitting in the second row at my church youth group. The girls had gone into a different room and we started talking about marriage and how to pray for your future husband. This topic wasn’t something my teenage-self thought of often, but the conversation made a big impact on my life.
Our youth group leader was in her early thirties. She opened up to us about her prolonged season of singleness. I remember her pouring her heart out as she watched all of her friends tie the knot, yet she had never experienced having a boyfriend. “Always the bridesmaid,” she joked. Even though she desired marriage, she desired God’s will above her own.
Something she said that evening that stuck with me– she would pray for her future husband daily, even though she didn’t know if he existed.
The concept was new to me and grabbed my attention. How do you pray for someone when you don’t know if they exist?
As she continued speaking, I felt like a sponge– absorbing everything I possibly could. This woman spoke boldly about surrendering her desires to the Lord, even if that meant never getting married. She explained that finding joy in singleness started by being grateful for all the blessings God has already given her.
So, that night I started praying for my future husband– whoever he might be- and never stopped.
When I first met Dom, my best friend was also talking to someone who would later become her husband. The four of us hung out often. I vividly remember sitting in her car on many occasions, praying over these relationships. We really liked them, but we asked God to protect our hearts and, more importantly, remove the guys from our lives if marriage wasn’t His will. That was a hard prayer to pray, feeling so close to what I wanted, but asking God to take it away if it wasn’t what He wanted.
Looking back, I can see all the ways God protected me from heartbreak during the season of singleness. It’s coming up on seven years since I met Dom and I haven’t stopped praying for him.
13 Ways to Pray for Your Future Husband
1. Faith | Pray that your future husband would seek God first in everything he does, that he wouldn’t be distracted by the world, but pray his heart would trust God above all else, even during hardship.
“And without faith it is impossible to please him, for whoever would draw near to God must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who seek him.” – Hebrews 11:6
2. Decisions | Pray that God would guide his decisions, supplying biblical wisdom. Pray that he would not rush into anything without asking the Lord first, surrendering his plans to Him.
“But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, open to reason, full of mercy and good fruits, impartial and sincere.” – James 3:7
3. Protection | The devil prowls around like a lion. Pray that God would protect your future husband from physical and spiritual harm.
“But the Lord is faithful. He will establish you and guard you against the evil one.” – 2 Thessalonians 3:3
4. Mind | Pray that God would search your future husband’s heart and reveal to him any sin or change he needs to make in his life. Pray that he would renew his mind with the Word, worship, prayer, and fellowship.
“For those who live according to the flesh set their minds on the things of the flesh, but those who live according to the Spirit set their minds on the things of the Spirit. For to set the mind on the flesh is death, but to set the mind on the Spirit is life and peace.” – Romans 8:5-6
5. Healing from The Past | You don’t know what trials your future husband has walked through, but God does– He sees the depths of his heart and knows the past hurt or shame he carries. Pray for your future husband to give his burden to the Lord. Pray that God would heal any brokenness and replace it with redemption.
“Cast your burden on the Lord, and he will sustain you; he will never permit the righteous to be moved.” – Psalm 55:22
6. Temptation | There is so much temptation in this world. Pray that God would guard your future husband’s heart and mind against what the world says will satisfy. Pray that he would resist indulging in these temptations and have the strength to walk away from peer pressure. Pray that the Holy Spirit would convict his heart against anything that is not pleasing to God.
“No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.” – 1 Corinthians 10:13
7. Friends | Pray for your future husband’s community, for his friends and family, asking that he would be surrounded by people that would encourage him to chase after God. Pray they would speak truth over his life, keeping each other accountable.
‘Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.”’ – 1 Corinthians 15:33
8. Work | Pray for your future husband to be disciplined, hard-working, and a man of his word. Pray for God’s provision in his career path or job location. Pray that he would refrain from gossip in the workplace and allow his job to be a place for ministry. Pray for his co-workers, that they would see Christ’s love in him.
“Commit your work to the Lord, and your plans will be established.” – Proverbs 16:3
9. Finances | Pray for your future husband to be wise with finances and investments, a good steward who is generous to the Lord. Pray that he would not be a man of greed or entitlement, and that money would not cause conflict in your marriage.
Keep your life free from love of money, and be content with what you have, for he has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.” – Hebrews 13:5
10. Integrity | Pray that he would be the same person in public as he is behind closed doors, that he would work with pure motives and not need to hide anything he does from others. Pray that his actions reflect God in everything he does.
Whoever walks in integrity walks securely, but he who makes his ways crooked will be found out. – Proverbs 10:9
11. Leadership | Pray for your future husband to be a good leader by learning first how to be a faithful follower of Him. Pray over his spiritual discipline to study the Word daily, and that he would lead by Christ’s example.
“The saying is trustworthy: If anyone aspires to the office of overseer, he desires a noble task. Therefore an overseer must be above reproach, the husband of one wife, sober-minded, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, not a drunkard, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money. He must manage his own household well, with all dignity keeping his children submissive, for if someone does not know how to manage his own household, how will he care for God’s church?” – 1 Timothy 3:1-7
12. Parenting | Pray that your future husband would be a loving father, an example of how God loves his kids. Pray that he would be wise in teaching and in disciplining his children.
“Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.” – Ephesians 6:4
13. Attitude | Pray for your future husband to be slow to speak, slow to anger, and quick to listen. Pray that his words would be uplifting and not use rude language. Pray he would be a man of patience, forgiveness, and self-control.
“Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” – Ephesians 4:31-32
Friends, choose to let this season of singleness bring you closer to the Lord. Pray for His will above your own, especially when you’re feeling discouraged and discontent with life. Renew your mind in Scripture. Practice gratitude. Serve others. And remember, there is no such thing as a perfect spouse or perfect marriage here on earth. But one day, we will be apart of a perfect marriage as the Bride of Christ.
“Let us rejoice and exult and give him the glory, for the marriage of the Lamb has come, and his Bride has made herself ready; it was granted her to clothe herself with fine linen, bright and pure”— for the fine linen is the righteous deeds of the saints. And the angel said to me, “Write this: Blessed are those who are invited to the marriage supper of the Lamb.” And he said to me, “These are the true words of God.” – Revelation 19:7-9
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