The Art of Biblical Homemaking
Last week, I was scrubbing dishes after dinner and heard my husband say, “Your hard work doesn’t go unnoticed.”
*Insert heart-eyes emoji here.*
Becoming a homemaker without kids was something that just kind of happened. At the time, biblical homemaking wasn’t on my radar. I didn’t wake up one day and decide to be a stay-at-home-wife. Actually, my dream was to work in human trafficking prevention. Two completely different extremes.
But God had other plans for my ministry, and it started at home.
After a lot of trial and error, I found the art of biblical homemaking. And it goes so much deeper than doing dishes.
Growing up, there was a running joke in my family that I didn’t know how to boil water. It wasn’t so much that I didn’t know how, but that I had zero desire to learn to cook (despite coming from a line of women who thrived in the kitchen).
Cleaning looked a lot like shoving as much as I could under the bed and tossing the rest in the closet.
There was no folding involved in doing the laundry. My technique was grabbing clothes out of the clean laundry basket until I had to wash everything again.
I could go on, but you get the point. I was the last person anyone expected to be a homemaker.
Over the last couple of years, biblical homemaking has changed my perspective on life. It strengthened my marriage, and more importantly, my relationship with Christ.
I’m emphasizing biblical homemaking because, at the end of the day, it doesn’t come down to how many hours I cleaned or how long I spent in the kitchen. It’s not about impressing others with a clean home. It’s certainly not about being a perfect wife because if it was, I’d lose.
It comes down to how I served Christ through my actions. It’s being obedient and a good steward of what God has blessed us with. It’s about equipping my husband to be a successful provider. It’s creating a sanctuary for him to come home to after a hard day.
Dom works as a law enforcement officer. His days are long and filled with unknown. Sometimes it’s a bad accident involving a drunk driver, other times it’s talking to a parent whose son was arrested. The last thing he needs walking through the front door is added stress or complaints.
Before we decided I would work at home, tasks would pile up. We had opposite schedules and he worked the night shift. Every weekend was spent fixing something or catching up on errands. There was never enough time in the week to get it all done, let alone spend quality time together. I couldn’t help but think there had to be a different way.
Eventually, we found something that worked for us. My job had ended for the winter and instead of finding a new one, I began managing the home. It was a huge leap of faith.
Financially, we’re better off than we were before and have improved our stewardship of money. An important aspect of why we’re able to save on one main income is this: we live well below our means. If we don’t have the money for it, we don’t buy it.
I spend a lot of time budgeting, planning meals, shopping around for the best prices, cooking from scratch, making our own cleaning supplies, taking care of household repairs, fixing an item instead of buying a new one, cutting my husband’s hair, grooming our dog, changing the oil and rotating the tires on our cars (I can learn anything on YouTube), etc. These savings add up over time.
It’s not all saving. We take a few trips throughout the year (we’re currently planning a California road trip!) and budget fun dates as well. We splurge on organic produce and save by not purchasing a new car. Every family has different needs and wants, and we found what works for us.
Homemaking has also given me the freedom to pursue a part-time revenue stream doing something I enjoy. It’s a win-win all the way around.
Biblical homemaking is an art– creating a sanctuary where your family can recover, nourish, and strengthen their mind, soul, and body. I love turning our home into a safe haven from the chaos of the world. The best part? Anyone can do it.
Creating a sanctuary can look like keeping the home clean and decluttered, or having a welcoming atmosphere. It can be through decor or the smell of freshly baked desserts on the weekend. It’s not about perfection– it’s about having a heart to serve your family and guests. That’s what makes the biggest difference.
Whether your job is a stay at home wife or mother, a part-time employee, a full-time employee, a single parent, juggling two jobs and a family, a student, an entrepreneur, anything– whatever the job description is– remember that it’s not mundane work, it’s worship. Work at it well, with excellence.
“Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward…” – Colossians 3:23-24
The rewards of homemaking may not include a paycheck like most other jobs, but the benefits far outweigh monetary value for us. It’s a simple and blessed way of life.